“They keep saying God didn’t cause the cancer. Maybe so. But, He sure could have stopped the cancer. So many prayers were offered by so many people – and it didn’t help a thing!”
The sentiments vented by the grief-filled spouse honestly expressed what many people are afraid to say. I listened and cried, while giving assurance that God has a big set of shoulders upon which we can confidently cast every burden. We can tell God anything. He understands, and He lends assistance even when we are disappointed in Him.
One of the many things I enjoy about growing older is the opportunity to approach things with a bit of perspective. The names and faces change, but the same painful life issues surface repeatedly. None of us are immune to the thoughts voiced by the broken-hearted spouse who was adjusting to the deafening silence of an empty home. Sitting alone, eating alone, and sleeping alone wear on the soul.
Three questions are often asked of God when life falls apart. The first question is “What the ______?” Fill in your own word. How could God allow this to happen in your life when you are seeking to do what is right? Many people who don’t seem to be giving God the time of day have never experienced what God has allowed on your doorstep. The pain was unexpected and definitely undeserved. At this point life seems extremely unfair.
Question number two: “What did I do wrong?” There had to be a cause. If a different path had been taken earlier, this could have been avoided. Maybe that action that was taken, or not taken, resulted in the devastating consequence that eliminated life as you knew it. If only you had done things differently. You blame yourself because it seems like the natural thing to do. This is not a healthy place to be.
The final question in my oversimplified observation: “What do I do now?” This is a good question because it indicates a choice to continue living. And, make no mistake about it, continuing to live after a devastating loss is a choice. Wallowing in pain must be replaced by living with hope. This happens with the acceptance that even though the life hoped for will never become a reality, the God of all hope remains forever faithful.
- Sunday Sermon – “Fishers of Men” – Luke 5:1 – 11
- Foster Care and Adoption Q&A – Sunday, June 9, 12 – 1 pm
- Registration for Vacation Bible School – June 3-7, is available online http://www.fbcweatherford.com
- Falls Creek 2019 will be July 15 – 20